Posts Tagged ‘ Criticism ’

Let Them Find Their Own Light

There was once a little boy who saw a butterfly starting to come out of its cocoon. He got so excited that he began to peel off the layers of the cocoon to help the butterfly come out, but to his own sadness, the butterfly died.

Sometimes when you think you are helping others by pushing them in the right direction, you may actually be hurting them. It is not your place to criticize how others live their lives. If they come to you for help, then by all means, give them your opinion and guidance, but otherwise, let them find their own light.

I think that the best way we can help someone is by uplifting them, inspiring them and motivating them by showing them the good in the world and leading by example. People aren’t going to respond to negativity and criticism. Even if your intentions are pure, you have to be mindful of how you project them.

Good Day to All ~ Vikas Sharma

Sometimes, it’s good to know

Sometimes, it is good to know how others perceive you or to know what the people who know you thinks about you because that may means that’s how you reflect yourself to others, not certainly but it could mean that. We can know how we are reflecting/representing ourselves by observing and self analysing ourselves, by knowing or observing the opinion of the people or the criticism of us by the people around us, it depends on us how we take it. We just have to be confident on what we are doing and keep ourselves open to any criticism or opinion believing that it can help us to make some changes for betterment. Knowing your reputation or knowing how people perceive you can either tell you to grow greater or make some self changes, it entirely depends on how you’re observing yourself and others.

If people say I’m narcissist, then that might means I do represent myself as a narcissist human, I might be doing some activities which are representing me as a narcissist human. If people say I’m a respectable, modest and intelligent human, then that might means I present myself as a respectable, modest and intelligent human to others. It can be said that both the scenario not certainly but can be based on how I’m representing myself.

I think it’s not right to tell people to not care about what others think of you. You cannot live in this world with you and yourself only. We are humans, and we reflect what we think. So what others think about us can influence on how we live too. Our mental well-being resides on human interaction, and humans judge, we have a part of the brain called the frontal lobe for that reason. We have to evaluate whether someone is a threat or set back to our life or is a good influence. So observing yourself and others is good as it can help us to make some good changes.

I do believe that we cannot live in the world to please everybody but knowing how others perceive us can help us in our betterment. So I wouldn’t agree with the saying don’t give a shit what other think of you as sometimes we have to. In the end, it’s just about being true to yourself, to your behavior and to your world, and not everyone is going to click, we just have to be ready to make changes for betterment and life will unfold before us.

Much Love ~ Vikas Sharma

I was just wondering… (repost)

Vikas Sharma - Change by actsJust publishing one of my old post again!

So here I go, have a good read:

I was just wondering how one can live his life to the fullest and this made me to put this blog in front of you all. There are many things which we can do to live our life to the fullest, why settle for anything less if you deserve something better? We all deserve the best and to get the best out of our life, we all should keep developing ourselves. Try to find pleasure in everything around you, it’s a beautiful world if you know there to look. Love every bit of your life to the fullest whether it is pleasant or not as it belongs to you, somehow you are the man who is responsible for creating all these moment around you! Always relish in the little moments because these little moments make your life complete.  Spending time with your family and friends, snuggling under warm covers on a rainy day, ice cream on a hot day, a kiss with your loved one, a walk by the park, gentle breeze on your face, sometimes getting drenched in the rain, quiet alone time, calling someone after a long time; feel all these little moments and if possible, try new things. What’s something you would normally not do? Get out of your comfort zone, try something different. It can be something simple like instantly planning to visit a place with your friends, taking a new route, any surprise to your friends or to your family members, trying a new food item which you have never tried, picking up a new interest or hobby. There are many things; you can try something bigger, like studying a different field, traveling to a place you have never thought to visit, exploring any unknown place. You know, there is a lot to explore; there is a lot to learn and experience.

 

As Steve Jobs said ~ “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

 

                                     Life is too short to do anything else you don’t like. Sometimes, situation doesn’t favor us to do the things we love to do but never give up easily. Try to do the things you love because who knows maybe someday you will get what you want! We all have certain things in our life which gives us fulfillment and happiness; try to spend time on those things. Never stop learning from your surroundings, there is something to learn from everything you see, hear and experience. This includes everything like your mistakes, misconceptions or anything you did wrong in your past, i mean if any! Learn from all these mishaps and surely it will make you a better person than you were in past. I think, nobody is perfect and practice can’t make anybody perfect but practice is one of the things which make you better and better. So never stop practicing to become a better person. There is one more thing which can help you to become a better person and that is criticism. Try to learn from criticism and be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you to be a better person. There are many things which can contribute to our betterment. And if there’s anything you don’t like about someone, say it to him in the face or otherwise, don’t say it at all. Backbiting is not a nice thing to do. We are human beings and there are lots of things which we face in our day to day life. Try to understand and feel another person’s feelings, try to be empathetic. If everyone only sees life from his own perspective, we’ll forever be close-minded and insular. See things from others’ shoes. Be a compassionate person, show compassion and kindness to everyone around you.

 

As said by Dalai Lama ~ “Compassion is something really worthwhile. It is not just a religious or spiritual subject, not a matter of ideology. It is not a luxury, it is a necessity. Compassion and love are precious things in life. They are not complicated: they are simple, but difficult to practice.”

 

                                   I must want to say this that without creativity and art earth would be just dull. Fall into any kind of art. Art can make our life more bearable, art is a way to grow our soul and art can teach you many things about the life. Creativity is one of those things which make us superior than other living beings on our planet. Creativity makes our life different. So focus on creation, think about what you can bring to the world, and try to create it! There will be lots of people who might appreciate your creativity and art. Bring changes in yourself, we live in a world where we have so many things to do, there are so many taboos in our society, there are many things we want to change in the world. As in simple words, be the change you want to see in the world. The only person you can change is yourself, stop expecting others to behave in a certain way. Rather than expecting that others around you change, focus on changing yourself.

 

                                Let the people who’ve touched you know of your gratitude towards them, so express gratitude. If you don’t tell them, they’ll never know; expressing gratitude makes a positive connection. Let loose and have fun, hanging out with your friends or family, sing at the top of your lungs, dance in the rain, watching movie with your beloved ones, sometimes breaking your limits, Getting into nature and feel it, smile more. Are you reading this with a straight face? Smile and have fun. It’s only through being the best we can live our life to the fullest and if life is hard then live it hard and enjoy it to the fullest. Love yourself; you are the person who will live with you for the rest of your whole life. Treasure and love yourself!  Love others; be grateful for all the people around you because they help you to grow. They enrich your life experience. At last I want to say, Love life, living a life is fascinating experience; and I believe our life should be composed of these five things: Live, Explore, Learn, Create and Share.

Constructive Criticism

There are always chances of finding a seed of solution in between a constructive criticism by examining and understanding it. Constructive criticisms are always there to help us to make some strategies or improvements or to find the points where and why we are lagging or to find a way to overcome an issue. It is apparent that collective mass criticism can raise awareness on a topic which can lead to  better product or solution as more and more brains start to address the problem or the issue

In my perspective, a collective mass criticism can be turned into constructive by raising more and more mass discussion for solution of an issue for which the mass criticism is being done and then eventually agreeing on solution which is contributed by mass discussion. Such a way of finding a solution or solving a problem is called Open Source. In my opinion, open source is a great way to find a solution or to solve a problem and therefore ignoring open sources can mean ignoring road path to solution and also running away from criticisms. So all in all, if we look into criticisms then there will always be chances that we might find a solution or a path to solution or a seed of solution in between those few of the constructive criticisms.

Have a good/night friends ~ Vikas Sharma

I was just wondering…

                                     I was just wondering how one can live his life to the fullest and this made me to put this blog in front of you all. There are many things which we can do to live our life to the fullest, why settle for anything less if you deserve something better? We all deserve the best! And to get the best out of our life, we all should keep developing ourselves. Try to find pleasure in everything around you, it’s a beautiful world if you know there to look. Love every bit of your life to the fullest whether it is pleasant or not as it belongs to you, somehow you are the man who is responsible for creating all these moment around you! Always relish in the little moments because these little moments make your life complete.  Spending time with your family and friends! Snuggling under warm covers on a  rainy day! Ice cream on a hot day! A kiss with your loved one! A walk by the park! The gentle breeze on your face! Sometimes, getting drenched in the rain! Quiet, alone time! Calling someone after a long time. Feel all these little moments. And if possible, try new things! What’s something you would normally not do? Get out of your comfort zone, try something different. It can be something simple like instantly planing to visit a place with your friends, taking a new route, any surprise to your friends or to your family members, trying a new food item which you have never tried, picking up a new interest or hobby. There are many things; you can try something bigger, like studying a different field, traveling to a place you have never thought to visit, exploring any unknown place. You know, there is a lot to explore, there is a lot to learn and experience.
 
As Steve Jobs said  ~ “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
 
                                     Life is too short to do anything else you don’t like. Sometimes, situation doesn’t favor us to do the things we love to do but never give up easily. Try to do the things you love because who knows maybe someday you will get what you want! We all have certain things in our life which gives us fulfillment and happiness, try to spend time on those things. Never stop learning from your surrounding, there is something to learn from everything you see, hear and experience. This includes everything like your mistakes, misconceptions or anything you did wrong in your past, i mean if any! Then learn from all these things and surely it will going to make you better person than you were in past. I think, nobody is perfect and practice can’t make anybody perfect but practice is one of the thing which makes you better and more better. So, never stop practicing to become a better person. There is one more thing which can help you to become a better person and that is criticism. Try to learn from criticism and be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person. There are many things which can contribute to our betterment. And If there’s anything you don’t like about someone, say it to him in the face or otherwise, don’t say it at all. Backbiting is not a nice thing to do. We are human beings and there are lots of things which we face in our day to day life, try to understand and feel another person’s feelings! Try to be empathetic. If everyone only see life from his own perspective, we’ll forever be close-minded and insular. See things from others’ shoes. Be a compassionate person! Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you.
 
As said by Dalai Lama ~ “Compassion is something really worthwhile. It is not just a religious or spiritual subject, not a matter of ideology. It is not a luxury, it is a necessity. Compassion and love are precious things in life. They are not complicated: they are simple, but difficult to practice.”

 
                                   I must want to say this that without creativity and art earth would be just dull. Fall into any kind of art. Art can make our life more bearable, art is a way to grow our soul and art can teach you many things about the life. And creativity is one of the important thing which makes us superior than other living beings on our planet. Creativity makes our life different. So, focus on creation! Think about what you can bring to the world, and try to create that! There will be a lot of people you will be going to appreciate your creativity and art. Bring changes in yourself, we live in a world where we have so many things to do, there are so many taboos in our society, there are many things we want to change in the world. As in a simple words, if you want a change then be the change. The only person you can change is yourself! Stop expecting others to behave in a certain way. Rather than demand that others around you change, focus on changing yourself.
 
                                Let the people who’ve touched you know of your gratitude towards them, so express gratitude. If you don’t tell them, they’ll  never know; expressing gratitude makes a positive connection. Let loose and have fun! hanging out with your friends or your family! Sing at the top of your lungs! Dance in the rain! Watching movie with your beloved one! Sometimes, breaking your limits! Getting into nature and feel it! Smile more. Are you reading this with a straight face? Smile and have fun. It’s only through being the best we can live our life to the fullest! Love yourself, you are the person who have to live with you for the rest with your life. Treasure and love yourself!  Love others,  be grateful for all the people around you because they help you to grow. They enrich your life experience. At last I want to say, Love life, living a life is fascinating experience; and I believe our life should be composed of these five things: Live, Explore, Learn, Create and Share!
Always Remember: If life is hard, so live it hard and enjoy it to the fullest!