What it means to forgive, how to handle it to turn things and ourselves better? Don’t you think that it’s of great importance in our lives to understand this every basic thing? Don’t you think it has very great impact on our lives and surroundings too?
Here, I’m just sharing my perception on the subject:
Let’s part it into two categories, that is, Internal and External Forgiveness, and hence, I would say there is an obvious difference between both, internal and external forgiveness. You may forgive a person internally so the pain or the consequences of someone’s wrong doing does not affect you and your energy. However, that does not mean you should necessarily forgive someone externally, it is not mandatory to forgive someone externally. Forgiveness, if that really exists, is for those only who deserve it. So I think there is always need to scrutinize that, are they really worthy of you imparting your forgiveness? Because, chances are if you freely forgive them without any consequence then sometimes it could mean you are only encouraging their actions. Your pain is real, it is not to be messed with, and yes, of course, nobody is perfect but being understanding is what is important at times, and always. Let’s be respectful to each other, decisions are not supposed to be taken in fury of emotions. Nobody feels good when they are stepped on like a doormat, nobody feels good when they are judged by someone who lacks understanding, by someone who is egoistical, narcissist and ignorant. You are a living, breathing and loving creature, that just happens to have a body. If you feel that someone has proved themselves, if they proved themselves worthy of your external forgiveness, well then that’s good, let them into your life. Use your best judgement and be kind, it takes hell lot of investment of time to build up trust and relations, and to knock it down no efforts required.
Love and Peace ~ Vikas Sharma