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Food for Thought #9

Excerpt from Alan Watts’s – The Tao of Philosophy:

Now it is my contention and my basic metaphysical axiom that existence—the physical universe—is basically playful. There is no necessity for it whatsoever. It is not going anywhere; that is to say, it does not have some destination at which it ought to arrive. It is best understood by analogy with music because music as an art form is essentially playful.

We say, “You play the piano.” You do not work the piano. Why? For instance, music differs from travel because when you travel you are trying to get somewhere and, being a very compulsive and purposive culture, we are busy going everywhere faster and faster in an attempt to eliminate the distance between places.

With modern jet travel you can arrive anywhere almost instantaneously, and what happens as a result is that the two ends of your journey become the same place. So you eliminate the distance and you eliminate the journey, and you forget that the fun of the journey is to travel, not to obliterate travel.

In music, though, one does not make the end of a composition the point of the composition. If that were so, the best conductors would be those who played fastest, and there would be composers who wrote only finales. People would go to a concert just to hear one crashing chord because that is the end. The same is true of dancing because the point of dancing is to dance.

However, we do not understand this because it is not something brought by our education into our everyday conduct. We have a system of schooling which gives a completely different impression. Everything we do is graded, and we put the child into the corridor at one end of this grade system, with a kind of “Come on, kitty-kitty-kitty.” So you go to kindergarten, and that is a great thing, because when you finish that you will get into first grade; then “Come on!” First grade leads to second grade, and so on. When you get out of grade school you go on to high school, and the whole thing is “revving up,” and coming closer.

Then you go on to college, and then by Jove, you get into graduate school, and when you are through with graduate school you go out to join the world. You get into some racket in which you are selling insurance and everyone has their quota to make, and you are going to make it. All the time that great thing is coming and coming, and it is the success you are working toward. Then one day when you wake up, and you are forty years old, you say, “My God, I have arrived! I am there.” However, you do not feel very different from what you always felt, and there is a slight let-down because you feel there was a hoax.

Of course there was a hoax, a dreadful hoax, because they made you miss everything by expectation. People live to retire and they put those savings away, but then when they are sixty-five they do not have any energy left to enjoy it, and they end up in a senior citizens’ community.

We have simply cheated ourselves the whole way down the line. We thought of life by analogy—as a journey or a pilgrimage—which had a serious purpose at the end. The thing was to get to that end, success, or whatever it is, or maybe Heaven after you are dead, but we missed the point along the whole way. It was a musical thing, and you were supposed to sing or dance while the music was being played. Instead you had to do “that thing” and you did not let it happen. So this is why the human being sometimes becomes an organism for self-frustration. ~ Alan Watts

 

Do You Truly Know Them?

No matter what, you will never actually understand someone’s pain, until you are the one feeling it or until you truly know them. Until you have gone through it, understand it as it is or feel it, you have no clue how hard it is. I’ve seen lots of people who just judge others without knowing about them and think they know it all, and then end up making all false opinions in their mind about others. Don’t judge people before you truly know them, because behind every person, there is always a reason why they are the way they are. Ask yourself first before judging others, do you know what they are going through? Do you truly know them?

Through Awareness

I think the better way to resolve a problem is through awareness. First you must be aware enough to identify the problem, and then you must be ready enough to acknowledge it too, and then aware enough to understand it all and its root cause. Then afterward comes the action, stimulate or take action to fully end the problem.

I don’t agree with the notion that if you don’t like your circumstances then you need to change your attitude, people who think this way need to try it once when they are in some difficult situation that they can’t stand and you can watch them change their philosophy real quick like. The real answer for someone who does not like their situation is for them to identify what it is that’s wrong with it, why it is wrong and then they will be inclined to take correct action to change it.

Have a good day/night ~ Vikas Sharma

Chapters in Our Lives

We all have good and bad days so give people more time to learn more about the rest of someone you do not know about. Everyone behaves different in different situations and it takes time to see how people handle things they have to deal with over their life. Everyone will have their turn to deal with having loved ones pass, jobs changing , loss of health, ups and downs, and all different sort of things, because we are always in a state of change. We never know where people are at in their life journey, so always be respectful to not add to their pain they are in at this time in their life.

We have many chapters in our lives and each person in this world have a view, if you only hearing one side of it then that’s a problem, respecting who you communicate with is half the understanding. Sometime people remember us the way we were with them and we remember them the way they were with us, and sometimes we simply don’t know what the chapter was and that’s why we or they can’t understand. Some will have opened your book at the beginning and read through to the end, others pick up your book when the pages are well thumbed.

Smile at Them

At some point in our life, we get into a situation where we overreact or act out of proportion, and for which reasons could be various, if not all then certainly some of us do overreact at some point, but then there are people who do it very often, they overreact even on every little thing, they think it’s cool to do so, they boast they are difficult to handle, and with this kind of their behavior they can distort your peace of mind too if you let them affect you.

Do not let them distort your peace of mind, whenever you feel you’re around someone like this then just do not pay heed to listen their crap, it would be worthless to do so, just think it like a noise and let it go. You don’t have to ponder over what they spew. People who overreact most often to every little thing are the one who never try to understand other, and for those who never try to understand, for them any reply is futile. So don’t reply to their crap, just smile at them and carry on with your work.

Some people takes pride in behaving like that they can’t be handled and keep on believing it’s cool to be like that, let them learn themselves, and their fallacy will be smashed one day sooner or later, let them learn themselves it’s not at all cool to be like that, overreacting on little things won’t bring anything good for anyone, but it shows how narrow minded they are to understand things and most certainly which would lead to screwing up things around themselves pointlessly.

Smiles ~ Vikas Sharma

Random Thought

You can tell people the truth, but you cannot understand it for them.

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Quote -  You can tell people the truth, but you cannot understand it for them